The Four Seasons of Marriage - Marriage Quiz

Think about your marriage over the past four weeks as you read the following statements. Answer each statement related to how often you would have agreed when asked this statement about your marriage over the last four weeks. (Answer these questions "in general", not based on your interpretation of specific situations you may have encountered in the past four weeks.)
See this chart to the right.

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You MUST answer ALL 20 QUESTIONS to get an accurate score.

1) Almost any activity we do together as a couple, even the routine outings, seem exciting or, at least,
enjoyable when I am with my spouse.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

2) We frequently discuss issues and when we do, the manner in which we discuss issues is completely
respectful and not harsh.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

3) When I reflect upon the fact that I chose to marry the person I did, I feel such peace.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

4) If my spouse were to die suddenly and unexpectedly, in the initial weeks after the death it would be
likely that my overall feelings would be emptiness without him/her.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

5) My spouse rarely does or says things that frustrate me.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

6) My spouse and I each have some of our own interests. I do not resent how my spouse spends
his/her time away from me.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

7) I completely trust my spouse and his/her relationships outside of our marriage.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

8) Though we come to an opinion or issue upon which we do not agree, I am optimistic we will work
out an agreeable solution.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

9) When I am alone with my spouse I am relaxed and comfortable; I do not worry about what
he/she might be thinking about me.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

10) In general when we are alone together I feel so connected with my spouse; we are so
close in our hearts ' not distant.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

11) When we have planned special, uninterrupted time to be alone with each other and
do something enjoyable I look forward to this event with pleasant anticipation.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

12) When I am with my spouse I can express myself freely without hiding my emotions from my spouse.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

13) We spend time planning future activities that are enjoyable activities we can do either together
or with our children (if applicalble).

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

14) As far as our relationship with each other, my spouse does not say or do things that raise
concern for our relationship.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

15) Although we have our own opinions about many topics, it is rare for my spouse to say or do
things that make me truly angry.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

16) My spouse treats me with care and tenderness.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

17) I frequently talk with my spouse and discover new or interesting facts about him/her.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

18) I am very content with how my spouse and I relate to one another.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

19) When it is an option, I will seek my spouses' opinion and take his/her response into
consideration on many issues.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER

20) My spouse is capable of making choices that would hurt our marriage, but considering the state
of our marriage today, I believe I would be capable of forgiveness in most or all circumstances.

ALWAYS OFTEN OCCASIONALLY NEVER